#1- Before you focus on a woman, focus on your appearance
Tat first impression of how you look to her can make or break
the rest of the evening. In most instances, when a woman goes
out she dresses attractively yet not too seductively. Mostly
she wants to appear that she is looking for an enjoyable evening
out. For gosh sakes guys, leave the jeans and that tee shirt
advertising your favorite bar or baseball team in the drawer
at home and break out the Dockers and a nice polo shirt. Besides
that, looking better than the average Joe in the place helps
you stand out from the crowd.
#2- Relax, put a smile on your face and watch the body language
It doesn't matter how self-confident you are, you're still
going to have "butterflies" in your stomach. You're
a liar if you deny this, unless your ego comes with it's own
zip code. Then you're not a liar --- most likely, you're a
jackass. Relax and smile. It helps things start much more smoothly
and will lead to positive results. Secondly, watch that body
language. Sit up straight, keep your hands visible, and occasionally
use some hand gestures to emphasize a point you are trying
to make.
#3- Don't booze it up before or during an encounter
Two of the key aspects with speed dating is the attention
and wittiness factors. Too much alcohol not only dulls the
senses, but hurts being able to maintain attentiveness and
wit. Besides that, a woman in a social setting gets bombarded
left and right with enough come-ons and stupid pick-up lines.
You don't want to get branded as "Instant JACKASS! Just
add alcohol."
#4- Focus on her and keep the conversation interesting
When you focus on her, it lets her know that she has your
interest. Be careful what "parts" of her you focus
on. Statistics prove that she receives the most encouraging
feedback about you if you focus on her eyes 70% of the time,
and her mouth and the surrounding features the other 30%. You
want to stimulate conversation by asking more open-ended questions
such as "If you had the chance to meet any one person
in the entire world, who would it be?" These types of
questions not only stimulate conversation as well as thinking,
but it helps her realize that you care about her enough to
ask her opinion on something that is more meaningful than "Where
do you work?" |
