| Sometimes it is not so much what is said,
but how it is said, that makes the greatest impression on someone.
Initially, let’s say that a man sees an attractive woman
and wants to talk to her. What would be a good opening line
for him to approach her with? Generally speaking a man would
have to make a decision as to what to say, based on the situation
of course. If for instance they were in a diner, he could maybe
walk over to her table and ask to borrow the salt or ketchup
or something that is on her table that he might need. She would
likely hand him the item and that would open the channel of
communication for them. It sounds fairly basic but it would
work.
Another situation might involve a woman who sees an attractive
man in an airport for instance waiting for a flight. If she
wanted to be assertive, she could walk over to him and ask
him if he knew where the gift shop was. The woman may have
to be cautious in such a situation of course due to international
risks and also traveling alone, but this may be an effective
opening line for them to start talking.
Yet another example of an effective opening line might be
where two university students are waiting in line to register
for courses and they may want to meet each other. In this case,
one of them could ask the other, what program they are in or
what courses they are taking. Academic environments are likely
one of the easiest places in which to meet people, especially
at the start of a year when everyone is new to each other.
The whole university orientation thing naturally encourages
people to meet each other.
If you want to meet people, you basically have to put yourself
in social settings and places that are of interest to you.
This way, when you meet someone you will know that you share
the same interest. It is somewhat like selective socializing
in which you choose the place based on your interest, and then
meet someone who shares your interest.
Finally, one of the most important things to remember when
you want to meet someone is to be yourself. Just walk up to
someone you want to meet and use the opening line that seems
to best suit you and the situation. You might be very surprised
how easy it is to meet someone and start talking to them, when
you don’t try but rather just be you!
Too often we don’t find what we need when we look for
it. You usually find what you need when you are not looking
and just being you and doing what you like to do.
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