Head posture or gestures can say a lot that words do not say. Men and women use their heads in different, though, similar ways, though. Have you watched a man and woman talk in a bar? What is going on with the woman’s head? The man is usually looking straight at her, even through her.

But, what do women do? If they are not interested in a man, they usually continue to look around the room. She may look down and to the side or even raise her head in a sort of arrogant pose. These are all signs of non-interest. If she is interested, she may initially look down but, usually, straight down, in a humble, “I’m yours”, sort of way. When she looks at the man, she will look him straight in the eye to see if she can detect his honesty. Once she is interested, she will probably tilt her head, as well. All these head movements are part of a language that we will explore in greater detail. They will give you cues to know exactly what a woman is think, and feeling.

So, we’ve said that the head can be tilted up or down. This can mean different things depending on context and inner dialogue. If a woman tilts her head down and looks to the side with rolling eyes, you know that she is not interested or has found your conversation a little too much. If she tilts her head down, however, and looks towards her feet or the front of her body, she is showing that she may submit this body and heart to you. Not right away, mind you. She may actually look down and then look back up into a man’s eyes. This is a good sign. Note, though, that if a woman tilts her head down and keeps her eyes glaring at you, she is probably feeling hostile. Watch out.

Now, what if she tilts her head upwards? If a woman tilts her head upwards at a high angle, she is either arrogant or feeling intimidated. If it is an arrogant gesture, she thinks that you are an idiot and wishes that you would go away. Now, if you’ve only just approached her, she may find you intimidating; try to relax her fears by showing her what a nice guy you are. Crack a joke or tell a friendly story - like the one when you helped the elderly lady across the street. If she tilts her head up, looks sideways, and smiles, you’ve probably said something that really amused her. Quickly think back to what it was and keep that theme alive. However, if she tilts her head back and squints, she thinks you’re a liar. Say something truthful really, really quickly.

So far, we’ve talked about head tilts up or down. Now, what does it mean to have a woman tilt her head to the side? This is a behavior that you’ll find more in women than men. Have you ever had a woman look deep into your eyes and tilt her head slightly? It can send shivers of joy down your spine.

So, how can we interpret head tilting to the side? Well, if a woman tilts her head to the side at a slight angle, she is showing her interest, and her sensitivity. If she tilts her head and pushes her face forward she is either trying to understand something you are saying or trying to kiss you. Either is a good sign you are not totally boring her. If she pulls her head back while tilting slightly, you may have said something to cause her to suspect that you are lying or stretching the truth. Or, she is developing a growing distrust. You should try and change that right away.

If she tilts her head at a medium angle (especially if she furls her brow), she is confused by something you are saying or doing. Try to find out what this is. If she pushes her face forward at this medium angle, she is really questioning you and practically calling you a liar. If she pushes her face back, she is really questioning your veracity.

Now, if she tilts her head at a large angle, she may be inviting you to get horizontal with her. She is showing you a large degree of her neck and exposing her skin for you to take in. If she smiles when she does this, pay both bills and take her away from the crowd.

Another head gesture to decipher is the head nod. The head nod is used in most cultures on earth to signify an affirmative or positive response to something that is being said or shown. Some scientists say that this is an innate behavior shown in many primates besides humans. If we apply this to understanding female head gestures, we know that if a woman is nodding, she is agreeing with everything we are saying, right? Well, maybe not. In fact, if she is nodding really fast, she may just be impatient with what you are saying. Speed and style is the key here.

If she nods by lowering her head first, she is nodding in caution. If she raises her head first, she is happily and optimistically agreeing with you. If she nods slowly and affirmatively, you have her undivided attention.

If you are engaged in conversation that is positive and you are getting the head shake (as in shaking one’s head No), she is probably disagreeing with you in her internal dialogue or is in a state of disbelief about what you are saying. Or, she just plain feels sorry for you! Always explore that response and try to provoke a positive, affirmative head nod, not a head shake.

And, if she jerks her head quickly to the side, she may be lying. Finally, there are two head gestures that, if you see, you are definitely in a woman’s good graces and field of interest. If she does a head toss, by throwing her head up and to the side so that her hair flies out of her face, she is most definitely interested in you. Also, if she is looking at you and does the infamous hair flip, ie. throwing her hair back, she wants to show you more of her face. This is also a very good sign.

Head gestures are an integral part of body language. Understanding how a woman uses these signs can help you not only tell if she is interested but allow you to maneuver correctly to end up taking her home and, maybe, to the church.