Sounds like the perfect girl? She just might be if you like acoustic and Celtic music and meditating outdoors. And her height – she’s the tallest one in her entire family, standing at a whopping 5’5 which makes her curves outwardly curvy. How one writes their profile is not always how it is interpreted. A lot of the information, especially descriptive information is relative to the person writing it and the person reading it.

In order to break through the fantasy of the profile you must use logic. Read the profile in full, several times. Make sure everything adds up. Do they say they love to travel, yet their posted annual income is less than $25,000? Yes, it’s possible they do travel on a tight budget, but realistically their “travel” might consist of exploring a new county within the state - which technically is considered travel.

If you find something within the profile that doesn’t add up, don’t be afraid to ask them about it. In the example of the travel, you could ask when the last time they traveled was and where they went. Questioning in this manner is more of a conversation and they won’t realize that you are actually cross checking their reality with their profile. If you ask them in a more blunt and upfront manner, chances are they will go on the defensive and that’s not a good starting basis.

Just as you find the fantasy v. reality while you are looking through other people’s profiles, it’s just as important to make sure your profile doesn’t have the fantasy factor too heavily played. While it is important to use your best photos and have a well written profile, you do not want to go overboard and exaggerate areas. Yes, your profile is an advertisement to market yourself, but you aren’t looking for a quick sell, you are looking for a long-term investor.

To keep the fantasy from taking over, keep the communication open. Ask questions, clarify the answers. Make sure what you are being told is what you understand. If you don’t clarify, you will only start to make your own conclusions which leads to fantasy, which eventually could lead to some pretty hefty disappointment when faced with the reality.