| There are four types of online dating scams:
1. Prostitute scam;
2. Phone scam;
3. Travel scam;
4. Nigerian postal scam.
Let me tell you more about these scams.
1. Prostitute scam
Prostitutes are straightforward: they place profiles on dating sites to solicit
business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names
and steamy self-descriptions. They don't waste time letting you know what they
are after.
2. Phone scam
This is the variation of the old phone scam: the person asks you to call them,
and when you do, you get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars (1900 number).
3. Travel scam
The person resides overseas and asks you to help them with travel expenses
to visit you.
4. Nigerian postal scam
The person pretends to be a relative of a diseased government official who
asks for your help in a financial transaction.
So, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet con artists using
online personals to reach their victims?
Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online dating
sites safe and secure.
First, when you view a profile, look out for the things like
a sleazy user name, especially if it's a woman: guys cannot stop thinking about
sex 24/7 (and it's normal) - but women normally don't do it. Sincere women
don't choose user names like "the_sweetest_sin", "ms_right_now" etc.
Second, read what the profile says: people milking others
for money will say something vague that can fit anyone.
Third, look at the photos: gorgeous professional photos in
combination with vague profile almost always mean trouble. People with beautiful
photos receive LOTS of mail, so they become VERY selective and include many
requirements in their profiles (especially women).
Basically, any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting in
bed is most likely not for real.
Any man who talks about being a millionaire isn't for real either.
It doesn't mean there are no women who love sex and experimenting in bed or
millionaires on the site - they just DO NOT talk about that in their profiles.
And any person who does, is a liar.
Simple.
Another HUGE warning is overseas profiles. Often people would
list their location as being local and when you start talking to them, they
reveal they are from overseas (Niger.ia, Russia, etc).
Such profiles should be treated as potential scams - always.
If the location in the personal profile doesn't match what the person says
about him/herself, my advice is to drop it altogether and don't waste your
time.
If you decide to proceed, do it for entertainment purposes only and don't get
emotionally attached.
What will happen, sooner or later you will get a money request in some form
- they need money for a sick relative, they want to visit you and need money
for tickets, etc - whatever the reason, there WILL be a money request.
When this happens, you can play along and have some fun, asking for instructions
and promising to send them money - just don't actually SEND it.
If you do, there are two variants: they will disappear or ask for MORE money
(hey, if you were so stupid to send it once, why not try again!) - and keep
asking for more money until you stop sending it.
Don't even HOPE this is for real. Because it's NOT.
You may want to believe it is, but better believe ME: I am a real person and
you can ring me and have a chat with me. With those people, you can't.
So, who would you choose to believe: me, who tells you this is a scam - or
them, who ask you for money (which you can NEVER recover)?
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
Forget any sweet stories you've heard in between - and any sweet pictures,
too. Most likely, the pics are downloaded from the Net and belong to some model.
(Hey, there were even scammers using MY OWN pictures! ;-))
Guys are more vulnerable to this one than girls: I have never heard about a
woman who wired thousands of $$$ to some guy to come and visit her - but the
Internet is PLASTERED with stories of men sending money to their non-existing
female admirers.
How wonderful... this perfect female specimen cannot wait to get hold of your
zip and provide you with the greatest pleasure you ever experienced!! OF COURSE
she sincerely loves you and is different from any woman you met before (and
probably a couple of generations younger than you as well).
C'mon mate: those perfect Playboy-type exemplars dying to try your new sheets
exist only in the virtual reality of your correspondence.
They are as real as Santa Claus or Niger.ian millions. You know this one: you
get a mail from a relative of a deceased top government official who begs your
assistance in transferring large sums of money (stolen from the country's people
obviously) - and easily promising to give you a few millions if you simply
allow them to use your bank account. The people may list themselves as being
from Nigeria, or any other African country.
This one is as clear as daylight, so if anyone starts talking about money transfers,
honesty and trust, simply BLOCK them.
Remember the formula:
Long distance + request for money = SCAM.
I hope this article will help you protect yourself from dating scams and
you will only meet honest, sincere and genuine singles from now on. |