1. Arrange to meet him.
When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick
you up from your home. In fact, your date shouldn't even
know your home address yet!
2. Meet in public places.
For a first meeting, always meet in a public place where other
people are in close proximity. You may also want to consider
going out with a group of people, or a double date.
3. Go dutch by paying half of the bill.
It's always respectful for the man to offer to pay the bill.
Unfortunately, some men ruin the gesture by expecting something
in return. Therefore it may not be a bad idea for you to
go dutch. Pay half the bill so that you won't feel under
any obligation to "return" the favor.
4. Remember that alcohol affects your judgment.
The biggest threat to a person's judgment, when on a date,
is alcohol. Not only does it affect your judgment, but alcohol
also lessens your inhibitions. If you are drinking, keep
your drink in sight at all times and don’t get so drunk
that you don’t know what you are doing. Better yet,
try to avoid alcohol on your first date.
5. Use your own mode of transportation.
Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place
and make sure you have more than enough gas.
6. Don't assume that a man is safe.
It's important never to let your guard down when on a first
date. Never assume a man is safe just because he claims to
be religious or a gentleman.
7. Don’t let him know where you live.
If you want to see him again, arrange a second date and then
take it from there.
8. Avoid secluded areas.
Remember - stay in a public place for your first date and avoid
secluded areas such as parks.
9. Listen to your gut.
If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. And if
you haven’t met him before, and you know at the beginning
of the date that something doesn’t feel right, then
leave immediately.
10. Always let someone else know where you're going.
Be sure
someone knows where you are going and who you'll be with. You
might even consider arranging a time to call and check in.
Or you could arrange to meet up with friends later that night.
11. Give him your cell phone number.
It's safer to give out a cell phone number instead of your
home phone number (click here for why).
12. Always remain alert.
Even if you’re having a blast and the chemistry is great,
it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Make
sure you have a cell phone on you.
Dating safely is very important. In the initial stages of
dating and online dating, you are still getting to know someone
you know very little about. By creating a safe environment
to know the person, you’re creating a better situation
for yourself.
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