First, a person should consider the good and bad things about
their relationship. In fact, it would be helpful if they made
a list of all the positives and the negatives and see what
they come up with. Keep in mind that a decision should not
be made strictly on which list is longer, but rather on the
most important items in each of these lists. For instance,
if there are 3 items in the list of positive things, which
mean a lot to you and your happiness, these may be reasons
to stay in the relationship. On the other hand, if there are
many important items in the list of negatives, where your boyfriend
or girlfriend does not meet your expectations, you may want
to consider ending the relationship. It is strictly a matter
of deciding if you can live happily with the way things that
are distributed on your two lists.
It is also important to think about whether or not you can
visualize a long-term relationship with the person that you
are dating. Can you imagine being with this person that you
are dating for a year, five years or perhaps even a lifetime?
Maybe you can hardly imagine yourself with your current boyfriend
or girlfriend for more than a week, in which case you should
end the relationship before things get out of hand and complicated.
Another point to consider is if there is anyone else who you
know who you are attracted to more than the person you are
dating. If there is someone you would rather be with than your
current boyfriend or girlfriend, it is better to end the relationship
sooner than later. A yearning to be with someone else is surely
a sign that the relationship that you are in is not the one
for you. To prevent hurt in this case, you should end your
current relationship and pursue that person who you want to
date before things go too far. Perhaps it is a friend of yours
who you have started seeing in a romantic light and are attracted
to. Whatever the case may be, you need to follow your heart
and do what is right for you.
When deciding to break up or not is whether or not your boyfriend
or girlfriend puts you first. Are you the priority or does
someone else or something else comes before you in importance
to your partner? If you find yourself last on the list most
of the time, you might want to take this as a sign that you
should break up and move on with someone who values being with
you more.
Finally, trust is a something that you want to consider in
determining the destiny of your relationship. Do you trust
the person you are dating or not? Perhaps they have given you
reasons to distrust them, in which case breaking up may be
the answer. In relationships where trust is missing, it is
either a sign to move on or try to understand or fix what it
is that is causing the distrust. Whatever you decide, you need
to be true to yourself.
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