First of all, after a breakup a person can feel so many emotions and have so many thoughts that they need to process before moving on. Often people feel hurt, angry, lost or upset from a breakup and these feelings need to be dealt with before starting again in a new relationship. If a person does not take time out for this purpose, they will possibly risk polluting the new relationship with emotional or mental baggage from the past relationship. To import negativity from a past relationship into a new one is sad, as it often causes a lot of unnecessary conflicts and hurts in the new relationship. In addition, when a person brings emotional or mental baggage into a new relationship, they are making the present relationship pay for the past, which is unfair.

Time out heals the spirit and allows a person to connect with themselves again on various levels. People need to know and appreciates whom they are, before expecting another person to know or appreciate them. People must be able to love themselves, before they are able to love another person. It is so important to feel an inner peace, contentment and happiness in yourself, independent of another person. When your own cup is full and you are happy and confident, you are ready to start a new relationship. You should want to be loved and not need to be loved. Wants comes from a place of confidence, while needs some from a place of dependence.

When taking time for one’s self, a person establishes a sense of independent happiness, which is the way to inner personal strength and confidence. When achieving this independence, look after you and all those things that you are. Pursue your interests and aspirations without depending on anyone to do it for you or get you through it. This does not mean becoming an island in which you don’t need anyone but rather, you want people in your life rather than needing them in your life.

To want something means you are strong in yourself. To need often means that there is some sort of dependency there. This does not mean that it is wrong to need things. All people need things and want things. It is just the balance between needs and wants that should be accessed in a person’s life.

Finally, to take time between relationships is advisable as it allows for a lot of personal growth in many ways that may not happen when in a relationship with someone. Every relationship has its demands on the parties involved and often personal time is balanced with mutual time. The important thing is that people find the balance and personal happiness that they require.