In the case of casually dating, a long-term relationship
is not the motive, a least not intentionally. In such a situation,
the couple should be on the same page and know what the boundaries
are. For instance, the couple should mutually know whether
they want to hold hands, hug or kiss in public or not. Some
people in casual dating relationships are comfortable with
this, while others are not. Sexual intimacy is another boundary
that may need to be defined, as not all casual dating relationships
involve this sort of involvement. The emotions of people in
casual dating relationships need to be guarded against being
hurt in these ways.
If you are casually dating, you may want to ask yourself why
you are casually dating and why you have established the boundaries
that you have. The answers to this question are personal and
need only be answered in your own heart and mind. If you are
lonely and needing companionship, that is fine providing that
you are with someone who wants the same thing. Again, the key
is communication and being true to yourself and to the person
who you are dating.
The realm of relationships is one of many dimensions and it
can be challenging these days to establish boundaries in dating.
One important thing to consider when you are casually dating
is the fact that you may only be with someone, so that you
are not alone. This kind of situation is hurtful to the person
who may be more emotionally involved than that. If you are
both together to not be lonely and know it, that is fine.
Another thing to consider is if you are casually dating someone
who you are not attracted to. It might be nice to not be alone
and to have this person as your casual date but it might not
look that way from the outside looking in. For instance, the
right person for you may walk by you while you are casually
dating and think that you are already taken and never meet
you. In this sort of situation, it may be better to be alone
and look available, rather than be with the wrong person while
the right person passes you by.
It is all a matter of effective communication really. If you
want to casually date, make sure you are with someone who wants
the same thing. Also, if your reasons for casually dating are
good ones for you, that is great. Just don’t use a casual
dating relationship for the wrong reasons as it may lead to
mutual unhappiness. If you are not happy in the casual dating
relationship, maybe you should consider either being alone
or maybe looking for someone you are more interested in or
attracted to. There is no need to be in a casual dating relationship
if the couple involved in it is not getting any happiness from
it. Be true to yourself and to others and great things will
happen!
|