Get your Dating Profile Right
Having
a profile that hits the spot is really important when daters
are trawling through hundreds of profiles of other daters.
That means what you write about yourself is actually pretty
important, so have a think about what people would want to
know about you rather than just rattling off the first thing
that comes to mind. Think about what would attract you to someone's
profile. What would you be interested in knowing? What would
interest you enough to contact them?
In a nutshell
It's also important to be as concise as you can, nobody wants
to read pages and pages of profiles detailing your life history!
You don't want to tell them everything straight away anyway!
Try and pick out some key pointers, highlights, things that
you may have in common with other daters and might make a
talking point and give them a reason to contact you.
Be positive
It's always a good idea to highlight positive things about
yourself rather than the negatives or weak points or bad
experiences. Other online daters could be put off by a profile
that describes sorrow, or portrays a sad or even depressive
nature in somebody. Try and sound upbeat and approachable.
Talking about past relationships of being hurt in the past
is also a big no-no. Not many people wants to meet someone
with a chip on their shoulder, or may be a bit of a prickly
character. Sociable, outgoing personalities who appear friendly
are likely to have much more success on an online dating
site, so bear this in mind without trying to be someone you
aren't.
What are you looking for?
Some internet dating sites ask you to describe the sort of
single person you're looking for, ranging from anything as
specific as their height, hair colour, and age, down to their
likes and dislikes. While some sites will have a matchmaking
facility, matching you on criteria to other people on the
site, other sites leave it up to you to decide who you think
you might be suited to. Either way, it's a good idea to think
about what sort of person you're looking to meet on an internet
dating site.
Are you looking to meet friends, sporting partners, holiday
companions or life long partners? The main thing to bear in
mind is what you think is important and what you would like
to see in another dater? If you're too specific it may take
a much longer time to find anyone that fits your criteria and
you could be missing plenty of other people for the wrong reasons,
such as they are too tall or short!
Decide what's important to you, but keep an open mind. Everyone
could say they're looking for a good sense of humour, friendly
and outgoing people. Try and think beyond this, to narrow down
your options without sounding too particular, or worse, materialistic.
Adding a Photo to your Profile There are obvious advantages and disadvantages to adding a
photo to your profile, but the basic rule of thumb is that
online daters with a photo on their dating profile are much
more likely to receive more messages from other daters than
those without a photo. Obviously if you're not the best looker
on the block, you may think that leaving your photo off your
profile is the better options.
However, some think that profiles without photos may not be
real, or are posted by people who are embarrassed to be seen
on an online dating site, and hence aren't really that serious
about dating anyway. This may mean you don't get as many messages
from other members for the wrong reasons! Having a profile
without a photo is a bit like going on the prowl in your local
bar/pub with a bag over your head! Now you woudn't do that
would you and have much success!!
At the end of the day, it's up to you whether or not you choose
to add your photo to your dating profile. If you do decide
to put up a photo, be honest! There is not much point putting
up a picture of Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston. You are just
setting yourself up for a fall somewhere down the line. Honesty
really is the best policy. Putting up a photo of you ten years
ago may also end in tears if people think they are dating someone
a decade younger.
At the end of the day, it's the old saying of treat others
as you would expect to be treated! Naf, but the theory goes
a long way at the end of the day!
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